(For the record, AW regards British Israelism in any form as irredeemably fallacious, totally discredited, and intellectually indefensible.)

Abuse

What are the Churches of God all about? What was Herbert Armstrong all about? What are the new cultmeisters all about? Where do you fit in to all this?

To answer this question, we must look to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fourth Edition (DSM-IV), by The American Psychiatric Association. Anyone who wants to serve their cult master well must understand the workings of the personality disorder, narcissism, roughly defined as not having any empathy. And it is all about serving your cult master--make no mistake. You must abandon your friends, family, coworkers and actively serve with all your might, talents, experience, skills and belongings to provide support for the End Time Apostle and those who "hold up his hands". Your service will insure the most important thing in this world for all ages: Validating his ego. He may be sad, pathetic and just plain wrong, but you must support him with complete loyalty. Nothing is more important. Rank comes first. Everything else comes second. You must contribute to his conspicuous consumption for the sake of God's Work.

Important Information to keep your relationship going!

Serving your narcissist well

If you are dominated by a narcissist, you probably are challenged to continually strive to satisfy the demands which deplete you mentally, emotionally, spiritually, physically, economically, and politically.

You know that your narcissistic parasite relies upon you to make them feel alive and confirm again that they are the center of the universe.

They are "bigger than life" and it is your job to tirelessly and perpetually shamelessly promote them as being the very best--whether they are the smartest, most clever, most handsome / beautiful or athletic--there is no one who can compare to them; they are a triumph of image over substance.

It is truly difficult to live up to the greatness of these people and you should always feel extremely honored to know these people.

Many of these people are avowed atheists, but do not be deceived--none of them truly are, for they ARE God!

You must recognize this godhood as part of their perfection: Narcissists are beyond mere perfection.

The person might be your friend, your spouse, your boss, a family member or a drinking buddy: The specifics of the nature of the relationship is unimportant--they have selected you to be their Ego Drug Supplier.

You are their unpaid prostitute to not just give them strokes according to their desires and needs; you must anticipate their wants and needs in advance to be ready to go the distance to satiate them.

Plan ahead.

Observe and learn them thoroughly to play in complete harmony in concert with them as second fiddle without missing a beat or generating a sour note.

Give them the feeling of power and superiority by volunteering to let them dominate you and expressing your willingness to do anything they want.

Give into their demands freely of yourself at any time, day or night; ignoring their weird sense of time and timelessness.

When your narcissist tells you to "Jump!", ask them how high ON THE WAY UP!

Be certain to always listen in silent attentive rapt attention as they go on and on for hours about how stupid people are and how they've been so insulted and how they're being so mistreated and how it's so hard to find anyone competent and how bad service is and how really rotten everyone in the world is.

Remember that these people are very sensitive to any hint of a suggestion that they may be wrong: To insinuate that they are anything but perfect will instantly destroy your credibility.

Resist the nagging doubts of your psychological early warning autoimmune system, nagging you that you might have made a deal with the Devil, that your narcissist is peculiar and disturbing, amoral and conscienceless, entitled, self-contradictory, stingy, grandiose, delusional, humorless, seductive, insensitive, pessimistic, secretive, cruel, immature, envious, competitive, contemptuous, critical, unpredictable, authoritarian, inflexible, cynical, gloomy, impulsive, having a highly selective memory, being a superior revisionist of history, may be wrong, might be mentally ill, might be an alcoholic, might be an abuser, might be a dirty rotten scoundrel who could land you in prison on death row.

You are a sadly flawed person who can never measure up to the perfection of the narcissist and are beneath contempt--you will never amount to anything and are not to be thanked or given any kind of recognition and gratitude: Any recognition and gratitude must always flow to your narcissist.

Always provide narcissists with what they expect from you, instantly, without question, gratefully and cheerfully.

In the back of your mind maintain that little voice that tells you, "What you are doing is for your own good and for the good of the whole world--you are doing an excellent thing, and you must continue!".

Never expect respect: Remember your place--you are a worthless, valueless, stinking piece of repugnant garbage who has been graced with the opportunity to satisfy your narcissist's addiction to you as their source to feed from.

Realize your place.

They are your Lord and Master; you are their unimportant obscure slave, lackey, footman / mistress--never make the mistake to think you should ever expect anything in return except your perpetual subservience.

You will always stand in the shadow of their greatness and never be any more than you are today.

Your Master will always stand above you with Executive Privilege as the successor of the Divine Right of Kings.

Be aware that your existence is only fulfilled in protecting the reputation of your narcissist King.

If your narcissistic source ever diminishes, understand that your narcissist will dump you in favor of someone who can better supply their continually burgeoning need for their drug of choice--you.

Never feel the need to be free from your abuser--your path is clearly one of sorrow, suffering, trials, burdens and utter joylessness; always be prepared to be trivialized--to lie down and bare your neck to show your submission to your narcissist as leader of the pack.

You must eternally compromise yourself and your principles, conforming to the will of your obsessed, unstable, erratic, demoniacal Master, negotiating appeasement at every turn, living in fear of their temper, anger, rage, ire, menace, and contempt.

As the needs of your narcissist escalates, you will find yourself continually losing ground.

You must be prepared for this.

After years of tolerating excruciating abuse, you will be dumped, sometimes publicly humiliated through being disfellowshipped.

You will feel guilty, lonely, insecure, empty--severed from the one to whom you have sacrificed your entire life, selflessly, asking and needing nothing from them.

Your narcissist will have moved on to a new source, for that is the cruel creature they are and what you have willingly volunteered to support.

But they are not finished with you yet.

You are expected to come to them on bended knees, repentant and contrite, groveling in sackcloth and ashes, admitting your sinfulness by not treating them with the extreme honor they came to expect, bearing your shame and embarrassment, begging and pleading with them with sincere tears of sorrow to forgive you and accept you back, apologizing for your worthlessness, sins and weaknesses--to make promises that you can reform to please your former Master; and most of all you must bear the blame for everything that has gone wrong in their lives; acknowledging your heretofore lack of gratitude for their presence in your life.

Just apologizing to them for offending them, though you have done nothing wrong, is a sure sign that you have entered this phase of your relationship.

If it pleases your narcissist, they may toy with you and make vague references to accepting you back, "After you prove yourself"; more often than not they, will threaten you by saying things like, "You'll PAY for this!" and "You'll regret it!".

The worst thing you could do at this point is to ignore them and get on with your life to be truly freed from your slavery.

Fortunately, there are others who need to live off of a narcissistic source.

If you seek, you shall find; if you knock, it will be opened to you; ask, and it shall be given unto to you.

You can always start the cycle all over again.

And you can feel stupid too!

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Your narcissist will automatically reduce your IQ to serve their interests better.

How to identify a Narcissist

Those seeking to become a narcissistic source have asked for a fool-proof way to identify a narcissist so they don't become attached to mere pretenders.

Although broad hints may be found in the above article, there are those who need more definitive means by which to identify their narcissist.

Fair enough.

The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM IV), gives the following diagnostic criteria (301.81):

A pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behavior), need for admiration, and lack of empathy, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by five (or more) of the following:

1) has a grandiose sense of self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements);

2) is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love;

3) believes that he or she is 'special' and unique and can only be understood by, or should associated with, other special or high status people (or institutions);

4) requires excessive admiration;

5) has a sense of entitlement, i.e. unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with his or her expectations;

6) is interpersonally exploitative, i.e., takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends;

7) lacks empathy: is unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others;

8) is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him or her;

9) shows arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes.

As long as your selected target to which you attach yourself to become a source exhibits at least five of the nine of these characteristics, you are probably on-target to choose them to devote yourself and your whole life.

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Last Updated: Monday, January 17, 2005