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Get Over It --
a New Perspective
by Russell Miller
I've been out of touch with the anti-WCG movement for a long time. Between the time I last wrote to this site and now, I've moved to LA, got a better job, and generally have been doing something with my life. One of the first things I did when I moved to LA, interestingly, was drive to Pasadena and get a look for myself at the "campus". I wasn't really impressed.
Anyway, I wanted to write about the words "get over it". We seem to hear that a lot from those who are still steeped in Armstrongism. "You're bitter", they say. "Get over it", they say. "If you don't like it, move on", they say, usually with spittle flying out of the side of their mouth.
I'm here to say... they're right.
Now, before you get out the pitchforks, torches, tar, and feathers, let me explain a bit further.
See, getting over it really is the best thing that you can do. It involves recognizing what has happened to you, dealing with it, and moving past it.
But while that's what these misguided souls will say, you'll find it's not really what they mean. "You're bitter", taken at face value, really would describe many people, including myself at one point, who were raised in or otherwise a member of an Armstrongite church. But the thing is, there isn't anything wrong with being bitter. When people hurt you, it's a normal and natural reaction. Being bitter is OK, as long as you make positive steps to stop being bitter eventually.
The thing the naysayers don't understand, and I suspect because of the fact that they are still emotionally stunted, is that getting over it is a process. You don't just decide one day "I'm going to get over it". It doesn't work that way. You have to face what happened, you have to deal with it, and only then can you move on.
My process of moving on has been lots of therapy. Contrary to what the WCG taught, there's nothing wrong with it. It can be immensely helpful. You'll remember, you'll hurt, you'll cry, but eventually you'll realize that it was just one of those things that happens. There were no excuses for it, I'm not minimizing it. But the past is the past, and the future is the future. And you'll move on, and make the best out of the life you have left.
So... stop being bitter. Get over it. Move on with your life. Just realize that it's a process, take comfort in the fact that there is a site like this that shows that you aren't the only one, and don't let those who are still embroiled in all of that crap get to you. They're stupid. You're not. Make the most of it.
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